How are you?

Do you feel that your mental health is suffering during Lockdown?

Are you feeling anxious, sad, lonely, frustrated, angry, and the rest?

We know that depression is low mood that’s not related to any particular event. So someone feeling low following a bereavement isn’t suffering from depression – they are simply and naturally feeling an emotion that is appropriate and normal under the circumstances.

And during this pandemic, which has been going on for far longer than anyone could have imagined, and which has caused massive disruption to everyone’s lives – what are the appropriate and normal emotions?

Anxiety, sadness, loneliness, frustration, anger. And the rest.

I worry that we spend too much time and effort pretending (to the world, and to ourselves) that we’re all right really. When someone asks how we are, we say, ‘Fine’. We don’t like to admit to feelings of anxiety, sadness, loneliness, frustration or anger, and the rest.

But it’s the pretending, the not acknowledging, the sweeping under the carpet, that will cause harm to our mental health.

Let me put it another way – anyone who isn’t feeling anxious, sad, lonely, frustrated or angry at the moment hasn’t really been paying attention. These are perfectly reasonable, appropriate and NORMAL emotions, under the circumstances.

Feeling anxious, sad, lonely, frustrated, angry, and the rest, is proof that mentally you are very healthy indeed.

Let’s stop saying we’re fine. Let’s stop pretending. Next time someone asks how you are, tell them.

You’ll find that they’re feeling pretty much the same way too, if they’re being honest.

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4 Comments Add yours

  1. Rachy T says:

    Couldn’t agree more! Saying ‘I’m not ok and that is ok’ is liberating! I have continued to work throughout as I work in a school and sometimes it just gets a bit overwhelming and being on my own means I sometimes feel sad and lonely too. All perfectly normal and that is what I say to staff at work 🙂

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    1. Yes, yes, yes!! I work in retail – and yes, it’s all a bit much some days. I’m quite theatrical the way I back off from people who come too close these days!!
      I’ve spent the last couple of days telling people how I really feel when they say ‘How are you?’ (current mood: edgy with hint of panic) – and every single person has then told me exactly how THEY feel in return. It’s so important. xx

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  2. Rachy T says:

    Well done you for hopefully encouraging others to be more open and know that it’s ok and normal to feel a whole range of emotions 👍 take care of yourself 😊 x

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    1. Thank you! And absolutely – I really do worry that we all seem to feel with have to be happy all the time, then we worry if we’re not. We’ve seriously got enough to worry about, without that!! Take care of you too. xx

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