Known Unknowns

It’s the not knowing that’s the worst part of all of this. ‘There are known knowns. There are things we know that we know. There are known unknowns. That is to say, there are things that we now know we don’t know. But there are also unknown unknowns. There are things we do not know…

Signs of Spring

Many things are very different now – but some things can’t be changed by any pesky virus. I like this time of the year – the signs of Spring are now unmistakable. You can feel the world around us starting to limber up. My daffodils are coming through, the clematis is in full swing. I…

When Life Seems Jolly Rotten

I’m not going to say that life will never be the same again – life WILL be the same again. But for the moment, and for as long as it has to be, our lives are going to be different. So here are a few positive thoughts about this strange situation that we all find…

Miss, Mrs or Ms?

It’s a question I have to ask as part of my job, and it’s fraught with difficulty. It’s easy for the guys. No-one will be offended by being called Mr, even if their correct title is something else. But it’s very easy to get it very wrong for us women. Traditionally we were Miss until…

Are You Set in your Ways?

This was originally posted to my column on the Sixty & Me website a couple of weeks ago – and now you can read it here too!! It’s not just our joints that we need to keep flexible as we get older. The trouble is we find a way of doing things that works well…

It’s Nice to be Nice

But not to other people – we all know we should do that. This is about being nice to ourselves. I think that’s harder. In Why Should You Care I wrote about filling the kettle and putting a teabag in a mug so that when I get up in the morning or get in from…

The Nights are Getting Lighter

I made breakfast in daylight for the first time in ages the other day. And yesterday I started work at 7am – which still involved driving there in the dark, but not for much longer! There are flowers on the clematis – spring is springing. There’s hope on the horizon. We’ve turned the corner. Once…

Try Not to Worry About It

Seriously? Is worry something you can try not to do? Really? I certainly have a lot to worry about – since my husband left I know that we probably can’t continue to run our business together, I’ll probably have to sell the house, and there will be less money around during my retirement than I’d…

Safe as Houses

Last night I heard a noise – a noise that shouldn’t have been there. A single footstep, upstairs. I don’t scare easy, and once I’d been upstairs and checked, I decided it was probably just a strange effect of the wind outside, or maybe a radiator expanding or contracting. I don’t feel lonely, and generally…

A Certain Age

How old are you? And do you tell people? Time was, a woman simply wasn’t expected to admit to her age. Admit. An interesting choice of word – we also admit to mistakes and we admit to being wrong. Are we expected to feel guilty for getting older every year? It was like that for…

One year on – what I’ve learnt

That was a quick year. It will be one year ago tomorrow since my husband told me he was leaving. Was that the end of something? Or the beginning? It felt like the end, to begin with. There was the initial shock of course, but then the realisation that I wasn’t really surprised. It had…