Doing the Deed (Poll)

I’ve decided to change my name by Deed Poll. It feels like the right thing to do, all things considered.

I guess the expected thing would be to go back to my maiden name, but I have a problem with that. Quite apart from the problem I have with doing what’s expected. I mean, maiden?? It’s been a while… Also, I got married for the first time aged 19 – so that name, to me, belongs to a kid. I’m not that person any more. And I obviously don’t want to go back to my previous married name.

So, what to do? I’m lucky enough to have a family surname as my middle name, and I’ve decided to go with that, and use it as my surname. Everyone I’ve mentioned it to has thought it works well.

So today I’m taking the first step – I need two witnesses to my signature, so two women from work (who’ve been supportive throughout this whole sorry mess) have agreed to do that for me. It feels a bit strange – like I’m taking this step out into the future all on my own. I think it’s a mixture of emotions – I wish I hadn’t been put in this position, but seeing as I am in this position, this is what I’m going to do. And also, it’s a pretty big step, isn’t it, changing your name. Mostly we either use the name we were born to, or we use the name we married. Actually picking your own name is a big deal. Very excited, actually.

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9 Comments Add yours

  1. Joan Mudd says:

    Good for you!


  2. anglosvizzera says:

    Great idea, to use a different name. I felt very attached to my ‘maiden name’ though, as my dad was Swiss and so I loved the connection even though I never lived there. Each of the 2 times I got divorced, I changed it back to my original name and when I married husband number 3, he said he’d be happy for me to keep my birth name…so I have!


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