Happy Birthday Mum

I’ve left the lodger in charge of the cat and joined my parents in a little hotel in Derbyshire to celebrate Mum’s 90th birthday.

This is the 90th birthday party that started off as a cruise. The cruise, which should have happened back in August, was cancelled back in March for obvious coronavirus-related reasons.

It was then going to be a weekend party, with 12 guests – private room, grandchildren, great grandchild. Then the Rule of Six came in and, well – you can’t choose six people to uninvite. Who would you choose? That grandchild can come but that one can’t? Partners stay away?

In the end it was just my parents and me. I admit I’m not much of a substitute for either a cruise or a room full of family.

Always difficulty to know what to buy her. I ended up buying a box of Thornton’s chocolate and a necklace. I knew she would love the necklace as soon as I saw it. And I was right – her face said it all when she opened the box, she absolutely loved it. And she said it would go perfectly with the outfit she’d chosen to wear on the Saturday night.

She didn’t wear it.

I’d arranged a WhatsApp video call with my son and his wife, to make up for not seeing them on the day – but between her not being able to hear very well, and not being able to see very well…

I got her a 90th birthday balloon (which she complained about), a badge (which she refused to wear), and a cake with sparklers (which she reckoned she was too full to eat).

I actually think she had a nice time, but she hid it well.

Can I admit to just being a tiny bit worn out with it all?

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6 Comments Add yours

  1. LittleDreams says:

    Happy birthday to your mum!
    I think we may have the same mother- those are usually her reactions to anything I get her/arrange for her!! 😂😂😂!
    And, yes- it is absolutely exhausting and no, there’s no shame in admitting how wearing it is. But I hope you all had a wonderful time anyway xxx

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    1. You’re the second person to say that!!! Maybe Mums just get like that when they get old. Very frustrating. And exhausting.

      It’s very very good to know I’m not alone.



  2. Juliet says:

    Happy Birthday to Mum! Yes, arranging a celebration, any celebration, or any holiday for that matter doesn’t get any easier as parents get older. I recognise so much in what you have written – but rest assured that I am sure Mum will be telling everyone about what a great time she had and what a beautiful necklace you gave her. Such a shame that your plans had to be scaled back but you did her proud and it is exhausting! Exhausting for her too of course to process the fact that she is reaching an age that, when she was young would have been almost unthinkable. And for a 90 year old even the most lovely different surroundings are still different and take energy to manage. Well done! You have such a busy life but you don’t let it get in the way of caring for your family and friends x

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    1. You’re very kind. I think you make me sound like a much nicer person than I really am. At least with a mask on you can swear under your breath and no-one can see…

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    2. SisterStay says:

      Well said. I’m sure she had a very happy birthday and you can take full credit for being a very thoughtful and loving daughter. x


      1. I genuinely don’t know if she did or not – but I tried, which is all any of us can do. xx


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